Wednesday, August 27, 2008

Went to dinner and blew it. .

A participant wrote this morning that he was doing so well but for the first time in weeks his scale went up. He went to dinner last night with several friends and couldn't say no to anything including free dessert that came with the meal even though he wasn't hungry. What you fail to realize is that every food encounter has a ritual of its own. And each ritual has an established (and very entrenched) frequency and portion size of the food and the ferocity with which you eat. Rather than overeating to the point of remorse, it's helpful to create and practice new ways to cope with the abundance of food found in most places. Otherwise you end up reinforcing a behavior that has an outcome which makes you unhappy.

Most of you end up eating not because you're hungry, but to relieve the discomfort caused by not eating. . If you find new ways to help the moment pass -- leave the table, move you or the object of your affection, make a waterglass-candle-flower-candle-salt & pepper shaker wall, push chair back. Anything is better than nothing. Take a deep breath. There. Ah. The moment passed. If you practice these things when you don't need them, you'll have them at the ready when you do need them.

Onward and downward,

2 comments:

Katie said...

that's interesting...

Anonymous said...

Thanks for your great book and your positive advice. Your approach is clear and positive. I love it!
Franc